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My wife is a peculiar person. She wouldn't bat an eye at spending 20,000 yuan on a luxury handbag, but when buying two-yuan scallions at the market, she'd insist on getting a head of garlic thrown in for free. To save five yuan on shipping, she'd spend half an hour haggling with friends on Pinduoduo. I chuckled and called her out on it, saying she was 'locally wealthy, globally poor.' She rolled her eyes and retorted, 'The handbag is a status symbol, representing my social standing; haggling over scallions is a down-to-earth attitude, showing I know how to live life!' Later, I came to understand that the penny-pinching in our marriage usually only applies to trivial things. That's the magical contradiction of modern consumption: we splurge on superficial appearances, but pinch pennies in real life. Everyone's so exhausted from keeping up appearances. I started observing my friends and found they're often the same. A friend with a monthly salary over 10,000 yuan would run all over the mall for a one-yuan discount coupon; a relative with multiple properties would rather fix the pipes himself to save a few dozen yuan on water and electricity bills. Their behavior seems contradictory, but it reflects the internal conflict of modern people: on one hand, we yearn for a dignified life, and on the other, we want to live frugally. The root of this conflict lies in our social environment and consumerist mindset. We're taught to work hard, earn more, and pursue a better life, but at the same time, we're told to be frugal, save money, and consume rationally. The clash of these two ideologies leads to our hesitation and confusion when consuming. But my wife's response made me realize another level. Her 'status symbol' and 'down-to-earth attitude' represent different life attitudes and values. Sometimes, we need to spend money to keep up appearances, and sometimes we need to save money to live life. The two aren't mutually exclusive; we just need to find a balance and our own way of living.