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Last night, while we were having dinner, my best friend complained to me that she couldn't find a partner anymore. Her reason was that all the good men had been taken, and only the unqualified ones were left. This problem piqued my interest, so I decided to explore it further. I asked her, 'If I were to give you my husband, would you want him?' Her silence shocked me. This reaction made me realize that she didn't really want to get married; she was anxious about her single status. This anxiety stemmed from her idealized fantasy of a perfect partner and her fear of her age. I then asked her, 'What do you think a good man is like?' She thought for a moment and replied, 'A man who is good to me, successful in his career, and has a harmonious family.' I smiled and told her, 'You're describing someone who doesn't exist.' I continued, 'Marriage is just a filtering process that screens out those who are willing to get married, not those who are good or bad.' She paused, seemingly having never thought of it that way. I added, 'What you're looking for isn't just a good man, but someone who is willing to spend his life with you.' Finally, I told her, 'You should reevaluate your needs and expectations and stop fantasizing about a perfect partner. True love and marriage are about two people growing together and facing challenges, not finding a perfect partner.'