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I still remember a colleague who was exceptionally skilled at arguing. She never raised her voice, never used profanity, and simply dropped a sentence that would leave her opponent stunned. That classic line was: 'Is your reaction right now because you want to be understood, or because you want to win this argument?' I've seen her use this sentence to silence many people, including myself. I believe the power of this sentence lies in its ability to strike at the heart of the issue. We often argue because we feel our point of view isn't being understood, or because we feel belittled by the other person. This question hits that sore spot, making it difficult for the other person to respond lightly. I've also learned to use this sentence to resolve conflicts, and it's been quite effective. Of course, it's not a guarantee that the other person will be left speechless every time, but at the very least, it makes them stop and think about what they really want. Mastering this art of arguing requires understanding the other person's character and psychology, as well as having sufficient self-control. Otherwise, it can easily escalate into a meaningless quarrel. So, if you also want to learn how to use this sentence to argue, start by understanding yourself and your opponent.