我踏马而来

Many women today are not even comparable to sex workers. This statement may make many people uncomfortable, but we must face this cruel reality. Sex workers encounter dozens or even hundreds of different men every day, and they see a harsh truth earlier than most women: most relationships in this world are not based on emotions, nor are they maintained by emotions. They are based on value. A man walks into her room, and if he has no money, do you think she'll accompany him for free just because he's handsome, can chat, or has dreams? No. Because from the first day she started working, she saw through one thing: demands without value are not demands, they're begging. Many people in this world are making the same mistake, taking others' kindness for granted. New graduates think about getting to know their leaders, bosses, and think that having more friends means more opportunities, so they serve tea, buy meals, and run errands, thinking they're networking. The truth is, you're often just managing your own inferiority. When you have no value, so-called connections are just names in your phonebook that will never be opened. Knowing a hundred bosses doesn't mean anyone will make money with you; adding a thousand rich people on WeChat doesn't mean anyone will help you. Why? Because the most real rule among adults is value exchange. Why do top streamers connect with each other? Because I can bring you traffic, and you can bring me traffic. Why do bosses dine with bosses? Because I have resources, and you have channels. Why do great people have amazing friends? It's not because they're born noble; it's because they can exchange value with each other. Many people think this is realistic, even cruel. Don't people have true feelings for each other? Of course, they do. The love of parents for their children, the companionship of true friends, the pure moments in love – all these exist. But you must acknowledge one fact: most relationships in the adult world are built on some value basis. Love is no exception. A man who has no money at 20 can say he has potential. But if he's still incapable, irresponsible, and has no emotional value or anything admirable at 40, why should others pay for his poverty and incompetence for a lifetime? Similarly, if a woman only wants to rely on others but has no charm, ability, or value, her relationships will vanish as the other person's needs change. The cruelest and fairest part of this world is that when you're weak, you struggle to know others; when you're strong, others struggle to know you. I used to think 'having many friends means many opportunities' made sense, but later I found out this phrase is incomplete: you must first become a path, and then others will come to you. Otherwise, knowing even the Jade Emperor is useless. So don't research how to please others or how to squeeze into their circles. What you should research is: what abilities do I have? What problems can I solve? What value can I bring to others? The top connections in this society are never begged for; they're attracted to you after you become strong. Remember one sentence: sex workers see through human nature in one transaction, while ordinary people may take a lifetime to understand – this world never lacks friends; it lacks the value that makes others inseparable from you.