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A couple of days ago, I went to have crab hot pot with a colleague, but the pleasant dining atmosphere was quickly ruined by awkwardness. I still remember when she accidentally knocked against the plate with her spoon, almost dropping it on the floor, and I quickly caught it. To avoid embarrassing her, I joked, "We're always causing trouble." However, her reaction was completely unexpected. She actually said, "It's your fault!" Oh my god! My expression at that moment must have been priceless, as I never expected her to respond like that. It's hard to describe the feeling, but it was like being slapped in the face. I only realized later that she was a typical "master of shifting blame." The problem was hers, but she didn't want to be embarrassed, so she pushed the blame onto someone else. At the time, I thought, since she needed a way out, I'd give her one. But she actually took it seriously and even lectured me. The more I think about it, the angrier I get. It's not because she shifted the blame onto me, but because she actually believed she was right. This way of communicating is really disgusting, as it doesn't solve the problem and hurts others' self-esteem. Now I just want to know, how can I get this off my chest?