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Many people think that those who can achieve success are strong, mature, or just don't want to bother others. However, this idea might be wrong. In fact, these people don't like to complain not because they are stronger or more mature, but because they learned one thing when they were young: expressing pain doesn't bring support. When someone encounters a problem in childhood, their parents' reaction will have a profound impact on them. If the father doesn't stand up for them or tell them 'it's not your fault', and the mother doesn't comfort their emotions or allow them to be vulnerable, their brain will gradually form a underlying judgment: vulnerability is ineffective, emotions can't solve problems, and in the end, they can only rely on themselves. This underlying judgment will have a profound impact on their later life. They will naturally skip the 'asking for help' step because they think asking for help is ineffective. They will face problems alone and solve difficulties alone. This doesn't mean they are stronger or more mature, but they are used to facing problems alone. This phenomenon is very common in real life. Many people can achieve success not because they are stronger or more mature, but because they are used to facing problems alone. They have learned not to complain, not to ask for help, and to solve problems alone. However, this habit can also have negative effects. Facing problems alone can lead to loneliness, pressure, and anxiety. So, we need to find a balance point, learning to solve problems alone and also learning to ask for help and express emotions.