软苏格拉底

I've always thought that paying for services is the most cost-effective way to get things done. Today, my uncle moved, and instead of hiring a moving company for 1000 yuan, he insisted on asking a bunch of relatives and friends for help. In the evening, he treated everyone to dinner, setting up two tables and opening two bottles of Wuliangye. The key is that from now on, every time we eat together, we'll have to thank everyone for helping with the move. I really don't understand this mindset. I think everyone has had similar experiences - helping with moving, treating guests to meals, giving gifts... These things seem friendly and kind, but in reality, they hide a kind of unspoken burden. Why do we always think that asking others for help is a burden, rather than a natural act of mutual assistance? In my opinion, paying for services is a direct and effective way to get things done. It not only saves time and energy but also avoids a lot of unnecessary trouble and awkwardness. However, in Chinese culture, paying for services is often seen as impolite, and even considered lazy and unfriendly. I don't understand this logic. Why do we always think that asking others for help is a better choice? Do we really think that free help is always given with a true heart, while paying for services is always cold and selfish? I think the root of this mindset lies in our traditional cultural values. We're always taught to treat others with courtesy and kindness. However, in real life, this idea is often distorted and exploited. We need to rethink this cultural value and find a more reasonable and effective way of mutual assistance.