软苏格拉底

My wife and I were high school classmates, and it's been 7 years since we graduated. Although we both have our own jobs, the income gap is still quite large. I work in foreign trade, and my after-tax income is at least 300,000 to 400,000 yuan per year, while my wife works in supply chain management and only earns a little over 80,000 yuan. Although her job is relatively easy and doesn't require overtime, she basically gets off work at 5:30 pm, but she always thinks she's better than me and looks down on me. I've always thought our life is pretty good, after all, we have our own house, although it's not yet delivered, we've already rented a house near her company. When we didn't have a car, I rode an electric scooter to and from work, about 10 kilometers one way, and after work, I had to split household chores with her, but she was never willing to take on more. Recently, my wife's workload has increased slightly, and she needs to work until 7 pm (in my opinion, it's really early, I almost never finish work before 7 pm). But she complains every day, sighs, and vents her negative emotions in my ear. I just say her workload is okay, and she complains that I don't understand her. When driving, she also constantly vents her negative emotions. I can't take her complaints anymore, and we've already had several unpleasant arguments about this. My wife even started badmouthing me in front of our friends, saying I don't understand her. I once had a calm conversation with her, telling her that our classmates who work outside the city are all working overtime, and their income is already over 10,000 yuan. Some full-time mothers take care of their children and earn 12,000 yuan, but she says you can't measure a person by their salary. These days, she's been threatening to quit her job, and I told her that the car loan and mortgage are 200,000 to 300,000 yuan per year, and she shouldn't quit her job rashly. She's been making a fuss and throwing a tantrum. I really can't take it anymore, and I don't know how to make her recognize reality and be more down-to-earth.