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The story of Old Wang teaching Little Li the secrets of blind dating sounds absurd at first, but upon closer inspection, it reveals profound social psychological reasons. Old Wang's advice was to showcase one's 'length, hardness, and endurance' to women as soon as they meet. These three words seem unrelated to blind dating at first, but Old Wang's intention might have been for Little Li to showcase his confidence, determination, and lasting charm. However, Little Li took Old Wang's words literally. He pulled out a 1.5-meter long, pure steel, family heirloom iron rod and slammed it onto the table, demonstrating his 'length' and 'hardness.' This shocked Old Wang, who asked Little Li, 'What about endurance?' Little Li replied that he had withstood 24 hours of interrogation at the police station without confessing, didn't that count as endurance? Old Wang was disappointed, and Little Li continued to complain that the woman was pleased with his 'display,' but she insisted that he try the two-meter long, spiked club she brought, and when he refused, she called the police. This anecdote may seem amusing, but it reflects many misunderstandings and conflicts that arise during blind dating. We often impose our intentions and expectations on our partner, resulting in unnecessary misunderstandings and harm. The essence of blind dating is the exchange and understanding between two strangers, not a competitive game of mutual display and comparison. We should learn to communicate and respect each other better, rather than solely pursuing our own interests and satisfaction.