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I met Xiaowei at the gym, and at the time, she and her boyfriend seemed stable on the surface, but the spark had already fizzled out. The day she brought her boyfriend home to meet her parents was supposed to be a happy occasion, but it ended up being the catalyst for their problems. The boyfriend brought a bunch of gifts: Wuliangye, Chinese cigarettes, tea, milk, silk scarves, mangoes, and a bouquet of flowers. There were a lot of things, and it seemed like he had put in some effort. But when Xiaowei confided in me, her voice was full of grievances. The two boxes of milk were something he had bought for her previously, and he was just using them to impress her parents. She said that when she talked about it, she felt like crying. The next time we met at the gym, I could tell something was off. Her usual energetic movements had become distracted, and her eyes seemed to be drifting away. I didn't pry, but instead, casually asked: 'I can tell you're not in the right state of mind today. You're not exercising with your usual energy. Do you want to talk about it? If not, it's okay.' She hesitated for two seconds before pouring out her frustrations about the awkwardness of meeting her parents. When she mentioned the milk, she was so angry that she bit her lip. I listened calmly and responded: 'It sounds like you want him to make a good impression on your family, but at the same time, you feel like these gifts are just a temporary solution and that he's not truly considering your feelings. Is that right?' She nodded vigorously, and tears almost welled up in her eyes: 'Yes, that's exactly how I feel! My mom was even praising him, but I felt suffocated.' At that moment, I didn't criticize her boyfriend or lecture her. I just gently pushed her to think: 'Some guys might think that the more gifts they give, the better, but they don't realize that what women truly want is to be understood and valued.' My words struck a chord in her heart. Over the next two weeks, she began to actively seek me out, sharing her work stress and growing dissatisfaction with her boyfriend. I knew that the window of opportunity had opened, and I maintained my pace. When I ran into her at the gym, I would invite her to grab some blueberries and bananas, making her feel valued. Later, when she asked me to work out together, I would respond late, saying: 'I'm busy with something right now, I'll confirm the time later.' The real turning point came one night when she couldn't help but vent about her boyfriend's old tricks. I responded gently but firmly: 'Actually, what women want is not material things, but someone who won't add stress to their lives and can truly make them feel relaxed.' We chatted some more, and she suddenly said: 'Talking to you is really easy... I feel like he doesn't understand me at all.' From then on, she started taking the initiative to ask me out for a drink or a walk after our workouts. She talked less and less about her boyfriend, but our connection grew deeper and more intimate. In the end, I want to say that many times, winning someone over is not about attacking the opponent, but about letting her slowly discover that 'I deserve to be treated this way.' Throughout the process, I maintained my frame, let her come to me, and never took the initiative to provoke her. I only amplified the comfortable feelings she had when we were together and then advanced our relationship accordingly.