Mugou

On the social app Soul, encountering a girl with a strong defensive mechanism can be challenging. Her defenses may make you feel like it's hard to get close to her. But how do you break through her defenses and win her trust? First of all, never use aggressive language to collide with her. This method not only won't work but may also make her more defensive. Instead, you can try using gentle 'dimensionality reduction'. Case in point: When she's being cautious around you, you can say, 'Don't be tense, I'm not the kind of guy who's eager to prove himself. I just think that beneath your tough exterior, there's a little girl who yearns to be hugged tightly from behind.' This kind of language not only makes her feel safe but also gives her a sense of being understood. Next, you can tell her in a slow pace, 'In this fast-food era, I don't mind taking my time to simmer a good broth.' This kind of language not only makes her feel that you're a trustworthy person but also gives her a sense of anticipation. Finally, use patience and bodily hints with a sense of imagery to dismantle her psychological defenses. Put aside your impatience and use gentle, dripping-water-like persistence to slowly melt the thousand-year-old glacier in her heart. This way, you can successfully break down her psychological defenses and win her trust.