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How long can a man go without a woman by his side? The answer is more brutal than you think – as long as he hasn't met the one who truly moves him, he can go a lifetime. This question may spark a lot of debate and discussion, but here, we're not exploring whether men can go a lifetime without falling in love, but why they can do so. Don't get defensive; this isn't about being stubborn, but about the deep-seated differences between men and women. In the brain's reward system, dopamine is responsible for short-term desires and novelty, while endorphins and oxytocin handle long-term stable attachment. Most men truly desire the latter. He's like a machine in standby mode, consuming very little, emotionally stable, and even enjoying this sense of order without attachments. The more a man's views are correct, and the higher his cognitive level, the higher his brain's demand for certainty in relationships. If you play hot and cold with him, his prefrontal lobe will immediately mark this relationship as a risk signal – not excitement, but an alarm. He can generously admit that he likes you and will appear immediately when you need him. But once he discovers that he's not special or unique to you, and can't see a clear direction, no matter how much he's attracted, he'll cut it off himself. For most men, the regret of losing someone is far less unbearable than being trapped in an uncertain tug-of-war, consuming themselves. So you'll find that a man who's been single for a long time is hard to pursue, because you really can't get him excited. He already has his work, career, hobbies, and close friends, which is enough to fill his sense of autonomy and competence, and he doesn't need a low-quality intimate relationship to fill the void. Evolutionary psychology calls this long-term mate selection strategy – having a nearly strict sense of responsibility towards emotions, and physically unable to accept mediocrity. Superficial, ambiguous, and boundary-less relationships are not emotional comfort in the subconscious mind, but a pure consumption of one's own value. Although he's single, he's never short of women who like him. Precisely because he's reliable, he's more likely to gain the opposite sex's affection. But it's not true love; he'd rather be single than settle. And once he's determined someone is the one, he'll give his genuine, pure, and high-investment love. He doesn't start easily, but when he does, he's in it for a lifetime. Because he's not just looking for someone to alleviate his loneliness, he's waiting for a matching soul. The key to breaking through is reunderstanding waiting. Waiting isn't passive, it's active filtering. The best relationships aren't about two people filling each other's gaps, but two complete people choosing to walk together after seeing through each other. That kind of love, even if it comes late, is worth it.