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I recently joined a fitness group on Xiaohongshu and added a fit girl. She's an active sharer in the group, with a toned physique and smooth lines. Her notes include both workouts and daily life, and her photos are well-taken, showcasing her waist and hip ratio. Some group members jokingly call her 'mom', and she usually responds with a shy expression or 'haha, you found out'. I commented on one of her notes: 'Your core is so stable, I used to rely on momentum when I worked out, your reminder is really helpful.' She thanked me and shared her own experience. After a few interactions, we naturally added each other on WeChat. After adding each other on WeChat, I didn't rush into private conversations, still focusing on workouts. I said: 'I saw your 5-minute variation in the group, I tried it, and my waist and abs feel it, how do you arrange your training frequency?' She shared her plan, and I acknowledged it, saying: 'I travel a lot, my time is fragmented, your plan is really reliable, that's how you get toned lines.' We chatted for a few days, and she mentioned that her shoulders get tight after working out. I said: 'I have the same problem, but I tried foam rolling and stretching, it helps a lot.' Gradually, our conversations became more casual. She occasionally complained about work or life pressure, and I shared my experiences on how to adjust my state quickly on high-speed trains, just normal conversations. Until one weekend, she said she was bored at home, and I suggested: 'I'm planning to work out, want to join me? You're familiar with the moves, we can check each other's weaknesses, I'll find a place and get some snacks.' She hesitated but eventually agreed. After meeting offline, we continued chatting about workouts, and the atmosphere was relaxed. Later, we opened up and found that she's actually very gentle in private, which contrasts with her strong aura in the group. Fit girls are actually easy to talk to, they're mostly self-disciplined, you need to establish recognition in their area of expertise first, then share your real situation (travel, time management, recovery experience), rather than just asking them questions, it's about equal exchange. Being called 'mom' privately or jokingly is a subconscious sign of dominance, submission, and maternal/authoritative projection. Don't be fooled by her appearance, she has a gentle heart. You can use it as a natural stepping stone, acknowledging her abilities while showing your balance, but the key is to first solidify your fitness and life, then you'll have the confidence to chat. Don't think too much about advanced techniques, just treat it as finding a reliable workout partner, and go with the flow. If the opportunity arises, grab it, if not, continue practicing. A small reminder: a girl's toned physique is real, but good-looking photos are often taken at angles and poses. Having a small belly is just a matter of size and visual perception. Don't be fooled by photos, real communication is key.