Davidzhu

As a man in his 30s, if you want a post-00s girl to chase you, you may need to change your mindset and behavior. The following three points may be helpful. Firstly: completely get rid of the '舔狗' (bootlicker) mentality. Don't spend money, don't try to please her without limits, this is called a one-way giving trap. Young girls have seen many tactics, the more you indulge her, the more she'll treat you like a tool. Refuse unreasonable requests, and put the relationship on an equal footing. She's used to being pampered, and when she encounters a man with principles, she'll be curious. Secondly: don't try to act young, being real is the greatest contrast. Don't brag about your past glories, don't force yourself to wear trendy brands, and don't awkwardly chat about e-sports. That will only expose your age anxiety and make you seem oily. Wear the most comfortable clothes, talk about what you really understand. If you don't understand something, be honest: 'I really don't understand this, can you tell me about it?' This kind of relaxed, stable, and unpretentious vibe is a low-dimensional blow to young girls. The stability that comes with age is naturally overwhelming to young people. Thirdly: be a good emotional trash can, don't rush to offer solutions. When she complains about work or life, don't rush to offer advice or correct her. Just respond with: 'What's wrong? Tell me about it.' What post-00s girls want is not a solution, but to be understood. 10% of conflicts come from the issue itself, 90% come from your reaction. If you can stably receive her emotions, that's a top-level safe haven that young people can't provide. Removing the age filter, not being oily, not preachy, having clear boundaries, emotional stability, and life experience are scarce resources. My friend is 36, divorced, and last year he landed a 2004 girl. He didn't even intentionally pursue her, they just normally hung out. Maybe you can try?