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Lately, I've had the opportunity to travel a lot for work, and I've met and chatted with many girls on Douyin, Xiaohongshu, and Soul. Sometimes I feel like the difference between their photos and reality is huge! I still remember a fitness blogger I met on Douyin a while back. Her photos were amazing, and our conversation was great. But when we met in person, the filter was off, and the atmosphere was completely different. She kept scrolling through other guys' feeds on her phone during dinner, clearly just looking for a good time. I cut my losses and ended things that day. Later, I realized that these platforms, although popular, are essentially entertainment platforms. The gap between the real person and their photos is huge, and emotions can change quickly. These platforms are good for quick testing, but don't invest too much emotion. Many girls on Xiaohongshu focus on lifestyle and aesthetics, but a lot of them are airheads with no sense of direction. However, if you can provide them with emotional value, maintain a strong frame, and show high value, it's actually easier to take the lead and the quality is relatively higher. But beware of becoming an emotional trash can. Soul sounds romantic, but it's actually a quick fix, with low barriers to entry and a focus on getting straight to the point. There are hardly any good-looking girls, and even fewer who are interesting to talk to. It's full of weirdos and emotional manipulators, making it a good place to practice, but not recommended for long-term use. I now focus most of my energy on Xiaohongshu, using Douyin as a supplement, and Soul as a backup. Also, when chasing girls, don't spread yourself too thin. Always remember the 333 rule: if she doesn't respond to your messages three times, move on; if she doesn't agree to meet up three times, move on; if things are still ambiguous after three months, move on. Finally, picking up girls is a phase, just like working out – there are weekly, monthly, seasonal, and yearly passes. So now I enjoy the process more than the outcome. Before things are confirmed, don't get too hung up on one person – it's not loyalty, it's just unwillingness to let go. Quickly filter out the bad ones, cut your losses, and maintain a positive attitude, and you'll reap more rewards.