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The first sentence you say determines how far you can go. Many people have had the experience of liking someone, adding them on WeChat, thinking for a long time, and finally sending a message saying, "Hello, what are you up to?" And then there's no follow-up. The problem lies not in your sincerity, but in the fact that the sentence sounds like a mass message. It lacks warmth, personality, and anything that would make the other person's heart skip a beat. The first impression is not determined by a glance, but by a sentence. When you've just added a girl, instead of asking her how she's doing in a serious tone, try sending a message saying, "You've changed a lot since before." She'll definitely be confused: "Did we know each other before?" You can then respond with, "Sorry, I must have mistaken you for someone else, but you're really special." With just these two sentences, her emotions will be stirred - "Why did he say I'm special? What's so special about me?" She'll start to wonder, and the conversation will naturally open up. The reasoning behind this is simple: a good opening line is not a question, but a hook. It doesn't rush to ask for information but instead gives the other person space to react emotionally. Don't be afraid of being "unserious"; what you should fear is being "uninteresting." Many people try to present themselves as perfect gentlemen when they're with someone they like - speaking politely, acting cautiously, and being afraid of offending the other person. But have you ever thought that politeness is reserved for strangers? The more serious you are, the farther away the other person will be. A friend of mine was chatting with a girl, and she asked him, "What are you up to?" He responded with, "I'm staring at your photos." The girl playfully scolded him, saying, "You're so unserious." But behind the screen, she was smiling. He then added, "I'm not usually like this, but after seeing you, I realized I was mistaken about myself." You see - with a little teasing, a bit of humor, and some heartfelt praise, all combined in one sentence. He complimented her while also setting boundaries: I'm not a casual person, I'm just different with you. She said he was unserious, but deep down, she was delighted. Between people, it's not about seeking approval but about being attractive. If you like someone and try to be nice to them every day, never refusing any request, you might think you're being generous, but the other person might feel pressured or even burdened. A true master doesn't chase; they just make themselves interesting. When what you say is interesting, she'll want to listen; when your life is interesting, she'll want to get close; when you're an interesting person, she'll be attracted to you without realizing it. This isn't a technique; it's a state of mind. When you can make her laugh while chatting with you, you've already won her over halfway. At the root of it all, what's most feared in relationships isn't not knowing what to say but wanting to get close while being too self-restrained. Try to relax, say something interesting, and make her feel like chatting with you is a happy thing. When she's happy, you'll be one step closer to her heart.